“I Thought It Couldn’t Happen Here”

In conversation with a regional agency director in the construction sector, two years after a workplace harassment incident challenged her assumptions about trust, leadership and vulnerability in a tight-knit company.

This article, challenging the idea that integrity is ever black and white, is part of ICC Netherlands’ monthly series leading up to the Week of Integrity 2025, where we spotlight real-world experiences and dilemmas at the intersection of culture and integrity.

“We had built a culture together”

Can you tell us a bit about your company and your role?

We are a small public works company based in a town in southern France, with about thirty employees. I’m the agency director and have been with the company for more than twelve years.

How would you have described the culture of your company before the incident?

The company had gone through tough times before — high employee turnover, lack of shared values — but in recent years we had worked hard to build a more cohesive environment. We brought in an external coach, developed a sense of collective identity, and shaped a family-like atmosphere. We weren’t just colleagues; we’d grown together. That’s why what happened was such a shock.

“The atmosphere was heavy — something had happened”

How did you first learn about the incident?

It was right after the Christmas break. Typically, our administrative team returns a bit earlier than the field staff, so it was a quiet Monday. We all had lunch together, as we usually do — but I felt something was off. There was a heavy, almost oppressive atmosphere. The next day, our accountant came to see me and told me she was the victim of harassment.

What was your first reaction?

I was deeply shaken — on several levels. First, I had absolutely no idea it had been going on, and apparently it had been happening for months. I always thought my team knew they could talk to me. It was hard to accept that something so serious had happened right under my nose and no one had come forward. Second, the person accused of harassment was someone I trusted completely. He had been with the company for 15 years — one of the pillars of the business. He was someone I worked with daily, someone who had even driven my daughter home when she did a summer internship with us.

“No one told me and that was devastating”

You mentioned no one came forward. Why do you think that was?

That’s something I’ve reflected on a lot. Two colleagues were aware of the situation, including our retired accountant, who’s still someone I hold in high regard, and a trusted site manager. They knew, but they didn’t tell me. The victim had convinced them that she would handle it on her own. She didn’t want any trouble. She was still in her probationary period at the time and probably felt vulnerable. The accused, on the other hand, was seen as irreplaceable; a highly skilled, longstanding team member. In the end, the two colleagues who stayed silent suffered enormously. It was a form of torture for them to hold it in. They felt they had failed to act. And I… I felt betrayed and deeply questioned my leadership. Why hadn’t anyone felt safe enough to come to me?

“There were no warning signs”

Had you seen any signs or had concerns about the accused employee’s behaviour before this?

None. Not a single red flag. He was respectful, kind, professional. I never heard a sexist remark from him — nothing inappropriate, not even close. Honestly, I had colleagues who were a bit rough around the edges, but not him. That’s what made it all so incomprehensible. What about mechanisms for reporting? Were there anonymous channels available?No, we don’t have anonymous reporting in place. We’re a small company, under 50 employees, so it’s not required by law. But we do have elected staff representatives trained as harassment contacts. When we initiated the internal investigation, confidentiality was strictly respected — to this day, very few people in the company know what really happened.

Do you think an anonymous channel would have made a difference?

Honestly? I’m not sure I would have acted on an anonymous letter. I’ve received anonymous complaints in the past — about things like drinking on worksites — and felt powerless to investigate without knowing who was involved. Also, in this particular case, I had so much trust in the accused that I might not have believed it without seeing the victim’s distress firsthand.

“It unravelled everything”

What was the impact on your business?

Operationally, it was hell for several months. The internal atmosphere was incredibly tense. The investigation was emotionally draining for everyone involved — especially the victim, the accused, and the two colleagues who knew. And me. I had to face the fact that something serious had happened on my watch. The inquiry itself concluded that it wasn’t legally harassment in the strictest sense —but I classified it as such anyway. There were repeated inappropriate actions. Regardless of intent, the behaviour was unacceptable. We brought in a lawyer and imposed disciplinary measures, but ultimately, the accused left the company. So did the victim, after a mental health breakdown.

A breakdown?

Yes. The situation spiralled. She had initially insisted it was “all sorted” and didn’t want us to act. I tried to support her — encouraged her to take time off, offered psychological help, reassured her about her job. But things got worse. One day, I walked into the office and saw her shouting at our former accountant, who had returned temporarily to help with year-end finances. She was gripping her arm, screaming. It was frightening. That’s when I realized there were deeper psychological issues at play.

“I tried to do everything right — and still, it wasn’t enough”

How did it end?

She went on medical leave, came back briefly, then left again. Eventually, we received a letter through her union representative — claiming I had known for months, had silenced her, even intimidated her. It was crushing. I had done everything in my power to protect her. We settled with a mutual termination agreement and a significant payout — for someone who had been with the company for less than a year. Meanwhile, I lost the trust of our head office. We’re still feeling the operational impact.

Looking back, is there anything you would do differently?

Yes. I would have taken the time to truly educate myself about harassment before it happened. I thought I was doing enough by sending two staff to get trained. I thought this couldn’t happen in a small company where everyone knows each other, where we have lunch together every day. I was wrong. Were there any signs you missed? No clear ones. She was always cheerful, always brought cakes, lit up the room. But later we learned she had recently lost 50 kilos, gone through a divorce… there were emotional wounds beneath the surface. Still, no one saw it coming. She kept it all inside.

And the accused?

He had a history of burnout. In hindsight, both of them were probably in a fragile mental state. And yet, the dynamic between them became unhealthy. Even when we tried to separate them, she would go into his office — lock the door. It was messy, blurred, toxic.

“I used to think harassment only happened elsewhere”

What would you say to other business leaders?

Prepare yourselves. Really prepare.

Don’t just tick boxes. Understand what harassment is, how it starts, and how to respond. Get trained yourself — not just your team.

Don’t assume that being small or close-knit makes you immune. It doesn’t. Make sure people know the procedures. Put them on the wall if you have to. Talk about it — not just when something goes wrong, but regularly.

Make it normal.

Make it part of your culture.

Because when it happens — and it might — you don’t want to be figuring things out in the middle of the storm.

You want to be ready.

And what does integrity mean to you, today?

Initially, I only thought of integrity in financial terms — being honest in business dealings. But now I see it’s broader. It’s about doing the right thing, even when no one is watching. In terms of safety — including psychological safety — that’s where we’ve still got work to do.

Is there anything else you’d like to share?

Only this: two years later, I’m still learning. Doing this interview made me realize how much I haven’t yet done — especially in terms of prevention. I managed the crisis. But I haven’t finished the job. Now, my responsibility is to make sure it doesn’t happen again.